Overcoming "Me"

"History has demonstrated that the most notable winners usually encountered heartbreaking obstacles before they triumphed. They won because they refused to become discouraged by their defeats".

B. C. Forbes

I had both a good and bad day today. Since this blog's purpose is to mainly focus on my triumphs regarding the startup of my clothing line, I will not go into detail regarding my personal life. What I will say is that the bad part of my day left such a sour taste in my mouth, that it has made me realize that no matter how hard you try to make everyone happy, there will always be someone who will do their best to try and bring you down to their level.

As painful as it is, I have to start believing in the advice that I give to my own sons. "No matter who you are as a person, someone will like you for who you are, and someone will not like you for who you are, so don't change". As always, it's been easier to give than to live. Unfortunately, I will have to make this my mantra if I'm ever going to be able to fully put myself out there for other people to judge my designs. My quest for perfection while not being criticized has backed me into a corner that I no longer want to call home.

I no longer want to conform to what I think will make everyone else happy. That way of life has crippled me and I no longer want to be a victim. I have too much talent to let it just sit idle. I have goals in life that don't involve me wallowing in self-pity. I have already accomplished so many of my goals that for me to think that I will be anything less but successful at this, is an insult to all of my planning.

I need to start viewing obstacles as things that are preparing me to be more prepared for the next step. Of course there will be moments where everything falls into place and life seems like it just coudn't get any better. But, there will also be times when I will wonder what went wrong so fast. I just have to be ready to bask in the sunlight of my accomplishments and face the heat of my mistakes. I'm ready for both.

Sincerely,

Ebony
(Conquering the world, one stylish step at a time)

Where it all began

I can remember as a little girl anxiously waiting for the Miss America pageant to start on TV. While others watched to find out who would be crowned with the coveted title, I watched to see what dresses the contestants would wear. I admired the way the dresses fit and the intricate detail that was added to make a particular dress stand out from the rest. With each dress that came on stage, I became more and more mesmerized. It was then that I realized that I wanted to become a fashion designer.

With that realization came the many designs that I would sketch out on whatever piece of paper I could get my hands on. I also managed to take over control of my mother's sewing machine to make some dresses for my dolls out of cut up socks (which make the best fitted dresses for dolls).

Through the years, I have gotten sidetracked and walked down different paths, but they all seem to lead me right back to my passion of becoming a fashion designer. So, I decided that I was going to get out of my own way and not only pursue my dream, but stay focused and committed into turning it into a reality.

This blog will chronicle what steps I take forward as well as some that I may take backwards. Please check often and comment, especially if you notice that I haven't updated the blog in awhile. I have set a goal of writing down one thing a day that I have done to make myself better and keeping this blog updated on a regular basis helps to fulfill that requirement.

Sincerely,

Ebony
(Conquering the world, one stylish step at a time)